Executive Director & CEO Corner

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month which is why it is important to note that intimate partner violence happens to both men and women from all walks of life and does not always leave physical marks. In a lot of cases, the abuser leaves invisible bruises by way of extreme mental and emotional abuse. Fact is, most people will go back to their abuser an average of seven times before leaving for good. At which time, they are likely fleeing with their children and the clothes on their backs. Nonprofit programs and shelters exist to help these victims navigate the housing system, find jobs and childcare and help provide personal care items that were left behind while escaping but they can’t do it alone. Supporting these organizations and lightening the burden is why our Builders for Babies program is so important.
The cost of diapers and wipes is exorbitant – over $1,000 per baby per year – and as you’ll learn in this issue, zero percent of diaper needs are covered by federal financial assistance. I have repeatedly heard from our partners that moms in crisis have to sometimes choose between buying their baby a prescription, paying a bill or buying a pack of diapers. It’s not unheard of for moms to It’s a heartbreaking
choice – one that most of us can never imagine having to make. And while I haven’t experienced that kind of extreme decision-making, I well remember being a single mom of a toddler and the incredible stress that came along with just about every one of her expenses. It’s agonizing.
But here’s the good news: While we can’t all provide a home or a bed for someone to lay their head, I think we all can provide diapers and wipes to those in need. It’s why we decided this year to boost our diaper drive goal by 20,000, and it’s why we’ve organized our annual diaper drive to make it as easy as possible for people to participate. We have collection boxes that we can deliver anywhere, an online wish list you can use to ship diapers and wipes direct, and staff ready to help. Find out more in this issue of Building Hope, and please join this important effort!

With Gratitude,

In the Spotlight

HomeAid Northern Virginia Kicks Off ‘Builders for Babies’ Diaper Drive

Diapers are a huge expense for families already struggling to make ends meet, and to help, HomeAid Northern Virginia has launched our annual “Builders for Babies Drive” from now through December 15. For the past several years, we’ve collected 30,000 diapers and wipes for our nonprofit partners, but this year, we’re aiming even higher – 50,000 diapers ranging in all different sizes and 50,000 wipes.
We know we can do it with your help! Individuals, organizations, and groups are encouraged to organize and host a diaper drive in order to help keep our tiniest Virginians comfortable and dry, and there’s lots of options for how you can help:
  • Organize a diaper and wipe drive; we can help you with collection boxes and promotional flyers.
  • Shop our Amazon wishlist, which will ship directly to our HomeAid Northern Virginia office.
  • Schedule a time to drop off donations at our office at 3684 Centerview Drive, Suite 110B Chantilly, VA 20151.
  • Print and share our flyer.
  • Like, comment, and share our social media posts.
All donations collected will be distributed to HomeAid Northern Virginia’s nonprofit partners that focus on alleviating poverty and ending homelessness, many of whom serve single moms and their babies. Donations like these are critically important; the annual cost of diapers can reach upwards of $1,000 a year per child, and unfortunately diapers and wipes cannot be purchased using Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) or Women, Infants, and Children (WIC) funds.
Ready to get started? Please contact Cilda Pretorius at 703.953.3525 if you need more information!

In Your Neighborhood

Golfers, Sponsors & Supporters Raise over $160K for HomeAid

The rains threatened to make our 7th Annual HomeAid Golf Tournament on September 17 at Raspberry Falls a soggy affair, but our SOLD OUT course of 156 golfers could not be deterred! Together we raised more than $160,000 for HomeAid Northern Virginia – making this year’s tournament our most successful yet in overall growth income and sponsors. Branded merchandise; raffle prizes; and the chance to win a 2021 Vanderhall Venice Blackjack, courtesy of Vanderhall of Winchester at lucky hole #13, made this year’s tournament one to remember.
Thank you to all who came out to support us and congratulations to all of our winning foursomes and individual hole winners!
1st Place: Mark Jansen, Bruce Rahmani, Josh Smigielski, Steven Smigielski
2nd Place: John Darvish, Tom Horan, Tom Lucierge, & Mike Tansey
3rd Place: Mike Bowser, Dillon Conner, Frank Graziano, Mark Liberati(not pictured)
Closest to the Pin: Mike Strasburg & Kelly Tolocka
Longest Drive: Steve Youngquist & Katie Um
Be sure to check out our Flickr album for more photos and our YouTube page for the highlight video.

In Your Community

Masquerade 2.0 is Next Month: Are you Registered?

HomeAid Northern Virginia’s 20th Annual Gala & Auction is next month! Have you made your plans? We promise that this year’s in-person “Masquerade 2.0” themed event, where we’ll celebrate 20 years of making a difference in Northern Virginia, will be a night you won’t want to miss. Tickets and sponsorship opportunities are available now, and our live auction is shaping up to include some incredible – and memory-making – experiences, including a Kentucky Bourbon Trail Trip; seven night Mexico package for two that features your choice of four locations; and a destination golf outing in Scottsdale, Arizona.

Can’t attend but still want to support HomeAid? No problem! Take part in the action by registering to participate in the silent auction, where you’ll find one-of-a-kind sports memorabilia and much more!

We can’t wait to honor our 2021 awardees, raise funds for our mission, and celebrate two decades of impact in our community. Please join us!
Want to make a weekend of it? TONIGHT is the deadline for making reservations at Lansdowne Resort & Spa at our special room rate.

Did You Know?

Diapers and wipes are critical for a baby’s health and wellbeing, and they’re expensive at up to $1000 per year per child. For those in financial crisis, that reality is made worse by the fact that diapers and wipes cannot be purchased using Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) or Women, Infants and Children (WIC) funds. Diapers can be bought with Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) funds, but nationwide, only 23% of families living below the Federal Poverty Level receive cash assistance through TANF, and the funds they do receive are insufficient to buy diapers and pay all the other expenses that money is supposed to cover.

Making It Count

20 Years. 20 Ways of Making a Difference.

Domestic violence can mean a lot of things – it can be physical, sexual, psychological, and emotional. It can take place in heterosexual or same-sex relationships, and between former spouses or partners. It can involve children, teenagers, parents, or the elderly. In other words, it can happen to anyone – and, as one of the most underreported crimes worldwide for both men and women – it can be ongoing. Research has found that more than a third of domestic violence survivors report becoming homeless immediately after separating from their partners, with many turning to homeless service programs for a safe, temporary place to stay after fleeing an abusive relationship. According to the National Alliance to End Homelessness, others turn to service programs and shelters because they lack the economic resources to secure or maintain housing after leaving an abusive relationship. In fact, on a single night in 2019, homeless service providers set aside more than 48,000 beds for survivors of domestic abuse. At HomeAid Northern Virginia, we partner with shelters and non-profits in our communities so that together, we can help survivors of domestic violence overcome their past: Since our founding in 2001, we have completed 27 construction projects for non-profits that address domestic violence, representing 16 percent of our total projects.

Supporter Spotlight

Volunteers Are What Make Our Annual Gala Great

The success of HomeAid Northern Virginia’s Annual Gala & Auction depends on a lot of people, from the planning stages through the after party. Lucky for us, two of our most dependable volunteers – Kim Calavas, vice president of sales at ABW Appliances and her husband, Chris – are integral to both the start to the finish of our Gala every year! Kim has served on the Gala Planning Committee for an incredible 11 years, while Chris DJs the reception and after party. Last year, when we had to livestream our Gala, Chris and Kim hosted us in their backyard, along with a tent, heaters, catered dinner, and all the tech we needed to make the night happen. Learn a little bit more about this incredible couple, and be sure to give them both a big thank you at this year’s Gala!
Q: The Gala is the biggest fundraiser of the year; what inspires you both to keep saying yes to HomeAid and to the Gala?
A: (Kim) The first year, I joined the committee solely for the networking opportunity. The night of the Gala, my eyes and mind were completely opened, and I became a huge advocate of the mission as well. Since then, serving on the Planning Committee is just my small way to give back to my community. I also love to see just how generous the builders are on Gala night – it brings tears to my eyes and warms my heart every single year.
(Chris) The mission is so great, and I am happy to play a small role in a large effort. Also, my wife asked me to!
Q: What makes the Gala a must go-to event, in your experience?
A: (Chris) The overall direct connection to the charity is strong because of the mission to house those experiencing homeless. The Gala is an overall experience every year that makes it an event to come back to: You can donate money in the paddle challenge, and the auctions themselves include some amazing items … but with this charity, not only are the donations put to good use, but I can help in a very constructive way.
(Kim) First, it’s FUN! There is always a theme, there is great food and open bars, amazing entertainment, so much to do, awesome items to bid on, and a chance to really dress to the nines (whether formal or fun). HomeAid’s mission is critical, and hearing the stories of those personally touched and changed, seeing the projects completed and understanding the impact on families, and grasping the magnitude of helping another human being with a hand up with dignity … that is what will keep me coming back as long as I am able.
Q: ABW Appliances has also worked with HomeAid on countless projects … how did you get involved, and what would you say about your experience?
A: (Kim) When ABW joined NVBIA and HomeAid, I joined the Gala Committee. I was welcomed with open arms, lots of humor, really great planning meetings, and an immediate dive into the deep end in terms of helping drive the Gala. I got to know the people who work on the committee, as well as the Board and many of the principals of the largest building companies in Northern Virginia on a personal basis. They are my friends and we look out for each other and collaborate whenever possible, inside and outside of the realm of the Gala. I would strongly urge anyone to get involved with HomeAid and see where you can help. Lend your talents, and you will get so much in return. I can’t emphasize enough the satisfaction of helping an organization that is truly about helping people.

Did You Know?

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in Virginia, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. On a typical day, domestic violence hotlines receive approximately 21,000 calls – about 15 calls every minute – and intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime in the Commonwealth.


Tip of the hat to Bank of America for your generous $20,000 grant! Your gift has enormous impact on our ability to serve those experiencing homelessness, and we are grateful for your support. Many thanks as well to EYA for the $1,000 grant and to Walmart for combined grants from multiple locations that totaled $4000. We appreciate all of you!

Welcome New Builder Captains
Join us in thanking and warmly welcoming two new Builder Captains to our HomeAid family: Shea Homes has stepped up to lead a renovation project for the Salvation Army of Winchester, where we’ll renovate four dorm units and common space in a co-ed shelter that is open 24 hours a day year-round, and Merritt Construction Services will lead a renovation project at the House of Mercy in Manassas, a thrift store where 100 percent of store proceeds go toward feeding people in need through House of Mercy’s food pantry. Welcome to the HomeAid family, Shea and Merritt!
Game Changing Events
Third-party events are gamechangers for us; they extend our reach with audiences who may not know us, give us the opportunity to spread awareness and education about our mission, to lighten the load on our staff since we don’t need to plan the events, and raise important dollars to support our mission. This month, we have two organizations to thank: K. Hovnanian Homes, which raised a whopping $33,000+ for us at their Trade Partner Council Golf Tournament in September, while Walsh, Colucci, Lubeley & Walsh raised more funds on our behalf through their performance at the 6th Annual Law Rocks Concert at the 9:30 Club. Thank you!


Penny for your Thoughts
Our CEO and Executive Director Kristyn Burr sat down with Fairfax County Board of Supervisor Penny Gross and Bethany House Board President, Brad Womble in September, for an engaging and informative conversation about domestic violence, critical challenges facing our local communities and our most recent project at Bethany House. Be sure to listen in to this Channel 16 segment – and learn of some of the strategies the County and organizations like HomeAid are taking to make a difference.

Save the Date

20th Annual HomeAid Gala & Auction – Saturday, November 13, 2021, Lansdowne Resort & Spa, Leesburg, VA Reserve your tickets

2021 Van Metre Cornhole Challenge Sunday, October 17, 2021, 12:00-4:00 p.m. Lost Rhino Brewing Company 21730 Red Rum Drive, Ashburn, VA. Benefits HomeAid Northern Virginia

NVBIA Future Leaders’ Oktoberfest Wednesday, October 20, 2021, 4:30 p.m. Mustang Sally Brewing Company14140 Parke Long Court, Chantilly, VA. Collecting gift cards – particularly from Walmart, Target, and Giant Food

HomeAid GolfAid Thursday, March 3, 2022, 3:00 to 6:00 p.m. TopGolf Loudoun 20356 Commonwealth Ctr. Dr. Ashburn, VA Now open for registration!